Patriarchy has always seen love as women’s work, degraded and devalued labor. And it has not cared when women failed to learn how to love, for patriarchal men have been the most willing to substitute care for love, submission for respect. We did not need a feminist movement to let us know that females are more likely to be concerned with relationships, connection, and community than are males. Patriarchy trains us for this role. We do not need a feminist movement to remind us again and again that love cannot exist in the context of domination, that the love we seek cannot be found as long as we are bound and not free.
I seem to keep encountering a lot of people well under 30, which is cool and all, but there are times I feel a little old. So I’m curious how many of us there are on…
Throw roses into the abyss and say: ‘here is my thanks to the monster who didn’t succeed in swallowing me alive.’
Please don’t expect me to always be good and kind and loving. There are times when I will be cold and thoughtless and hard to understand.